Friday, July 14, 2006
9:20 PM
hahas. Gruelling week past. Next week will be a good week.

Things have proceeded unexpectedly this week. Ive seen it myself, and i thought about it. Is it right for relationships to begin at this age? Maybe not i would say. Though yes i know i have a rather ok relationship and things had been going quite smoothly between us ( not with external factors though). I was thinking if it is a right choice to go into a relationship now.

People often say teenage is an age of rebellion and an age of growing up. We are still in the process of maturing and searching ourselves. We perceive ourselves as who we want to be, and we think of ourselves as better. Thats why people often say teenagers are too full of themselves. That i wont agree. Alot of times i would think that i know more than other people, and i see more things than other people. I guess its just part of being a teenager. Egoism is strong in the mind, and everyone wants to establish themselves with a personal cult. Not a strong as a cult maybe, but with a unique personality. Hence, it brought to me to think that how sure are we of ourselves?

Going into a relationship is like choosing something personal. It is just like choosing your path in life. You have to be serious, and you have to think it properly. But having said that, i would say that we as teenagers are not matured enough to do so. Many people enter a realtionship, younger for curiousity, older for the sake of being in a relationship. Afterall, a relationship i would say is not just for romance. There is more to that i would say. Maybe thats why there is such a high rate of people getting together and breaking up at the same time. Its because people arent sure of themselves. As i had said, we are in the age of change. We are growing to know ourselves better only and we immediately plunge into a relationship. Its bound to be disasterous i would say. We change the most and the fastest at this age. Oneday you may think this way and another you may think in another way. So how do you expect your partner to understand you? Its hard i would think. Thats why relationships at this age dont really work out many times.

I would say the most important thing in maintaining a relationship is trust, understanding and openmindedness. By openmindedness i mean able to talk things one. One of the greatest problems i see in many couples is that they dont talk things out. girls getting very pushy about things and guys avoiding the issue totally. That is a bad cycle i would think. As i said, we are all teenagers. We dont like things to tie us down. But oftenly, people are very possessive in a relationship. You dont allow this dont allow that. It makes the other person feel very tied down and get bored over things. These things all have to be talked out i would say. Any problem in that sense. If you arent serious about a relationship, you wont talk things out thats for sure. But if you are serious, i would think you should. It makes things very clear to each other and hence the trust increase. That is important.

Trust is the most important factor in a relationship. I would say its especially for myself. We are in different schools and we dont get to see each other everyay. The trust factor have to be there. If not there would be so much of a doubt and stuff and it makes both parties very stressed up in the relationship! That is bad. For one, i trust my girlfriend in everything she do. And of course i would tell her things, to avoid circumstances that are really embarassing. yes quoting from one of my friends, he was 'caught' by his girlfriend in orchard with another girl, but in fact they were only going for PW meeting. Thats like so embarassing, making a fool out of both parties. Haha. Really pity him.

Understanding is another thing i would say. For one, i cannot understand why people are so possessive about their partner. I would say, thats human nature. They want everything themselves and they cannot bear to lose anything. That could account for the possessive nature. But understanding for each other is important. By that i dont mean like knowing what they like and what they are not, but able to understand the situation they are in and help them or accomodate them. If you cant, i would say its bound for a crash landing. many couples nowdays do not understand each other well i would say. But well, its whether they want to put in the effort or not.

Many a time i realised guys in a relationship takes on a very heck care attitude. Thats quite bad i would say, because i think I THINK girls need attention and she need to feel that you are with her. Girls need that comfort zone in a relationship and that will make them feel better. So guys, be more engaging in the relationship!

`someday my princess will come. She just took a wrong turn, got lost and is too stubborn to ask for directions]]* ;