Thursday, June 08, 2006
11:23 AM
Hahas . . . The double concert this time is killing me more than the last time i did it. =x Had a full day of intenstive band practise yesterday. Actually wanted to blog when i reached home, but that was like at uh, 12? =x Tired enough for me to drop dead.

I learnt today that perception towards some words make it very different. As in, different people have different perception. And it is quite inevitable that people use their own perception of things to interpret words. For example, if you come from a very reasonably good background where people are nice and the environment is welcoming, you would treat things more lightly and certain words people say as just merely gossipy stuff. In contrast, if you are raised in an environment where the survival of the fittest theory stands strong, you tend to treat people's words as personal even if the person did not intend to. I think that this makes relationships between people very bad. It is a source of social problem in my perspective. Haha ok i think i just contradicted myself. =x

But what i had said is like some form of personal perception. If you were to take a more neutral and a more general perspective, i think it would be good. It is impossible not to judge. You will need to judge at some point in time. People often tell me that i should not judge people before making friends with them. But i would beg to differ. I mean i just judge to see if they fit my style and is the kind of friends i like. I am definitely not one of those that can walk down the classroom block and say hi to 10000 people. I find it meaningless to make alot of friends. I feel that judgement is needed before making friends, whether the person is true to you and whether the person is trustworthy and is rationale. I know that i can get very impractical and irrationale at times, but i believe in making friends using a more overview perspective. I would definitely judge the kind of friends i want. Yes this is also a form of perception problem, but i think that it is a 'necessary evil'. It makes life better. I think i made alot of mistakes in my judgement recently =x

Having said that, many people may think that im weird. When i say we should not take perspective, i continued on to say that we need to take a personal perception. I think this is a case by case basis. There are some things that you need personal feeling and perception to decide, like if a person is good to be your friend. I dont mean good enough, but generally would that person make a good friend in the end. Other things like gossips, you dont have to take them very seriously. I mean at least not on a personal scale. People love laughing at me, but i learn not to take such things seriously. I mean talking crap is somehow part of life. Its just how you want to take those stuff. My class well, have incidents that prove that if you take things too personally, you will create chaos. I dont mean its wrong, but i find it unnecessary sometimes. I mean certain things just colloquially 'one ear in, the other ear out'. For work i think no, but for such trivial stuff, i think its ok. I mean we always say this sux that sux, he sux whoever sux, but its just talking about stuff. Who do people have to take a perception that it is personal? I tend to think that it is just normal chat.

Recent events gave me a new perspective towards taking things personally. I think i need to learn to be more careful.

`someday my princess will come. She just took a wrong turn, got lost and is too stubborn to ask for directions]]* ;